That special mother
Autism Awareness Month: Gurgaon-based Kreeti Mitra Bhatia has formed an online community –
The Special Mom – to help other mothers with special needs children
Autism doesn’t come with a manual. It comes with a parent who never gives up. Gurgaon-based Kreeti Mitra Bhatia is one of those kinds. The mother of two was completely at a loss when her first born was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. She had two choices – either lose hope in despair or take it up as a challenge and raise a happy child with special needs. The fighter in her chose the latter. And after becoming an autism strong mother, she went on to create a platform for other mothers with special needs children to be there for each other.
The spectrum of hope
Her strength in being a special mother pretty much sums up all that goes behind that smiling demeanour, and also speaks volumes of the effort and hard work spent in raising a child with special needs. “It is a daily struggle to keep that curve intact on my face. It takes a toll but what makes my arduous job satisfying is the fact that I am doing the best that I can to beat the situation,” says Kreeti with a grin that is bearing and also baring it all for others to draw strength. She’s just made the autism awareness month special by forming an online community, The Special Mom. “I have witnessed the challenges that my son with autism and I face daily. Initially, I tried looking for reasons and solutions. But then we as mothers, wives, sisters and daughters, who have a person with special needs in our lives, need much more. So I formed an online community to reach out to others who are in a similar situation,” she says, adding the community members of The Special Mom will have its first meeting on April 22, 2019, in Gurgaon.
The idea to form a community came from the pain of another mother of a special child. “That mother poisoned her child, and then killed self. The news disturbed me no end. I have lived and felt that pain over the years and could relate to what that mother would have been through to have taken that drastic step. I realised that it’s imperative to create a strong community of fellow mothers, not to educate each other but to lend that patient ear and crying shoulder, and so The Special Mom was born. The guiding thought behind this community is to find happiness for all of us. By doing this, my pain will reduce in some measure,” says the mother of a nine-year-old boy with autism. The community will bring together such mothers to share their joy and griefs, good and bad experiences, inspire and motivate, and above all stand for each other if need be.
A smile that matters
Kreeti loves to hear the words, “Yes, I can do it with a smile” and with The Special Mom, that’s what other mothers are trying to do. “The Special Mom allows mothers of children’s with special needs a place to vent out their thoughts, feelings without any hesitation. It is a place to have fun, cry and talk your heart out and let your hair down and then walk ahead with a renewed vigour. These wonderful women will meet once a month so that those few moments of zaniness energises them and prepares them to face their daily struggles. It is also a source of drawing strength from each ther and working towards their common goal of raising happy children with special needs,” says Kreeti, adding that the best way to deal with stress and manage it is to talk about it. “This platform does precisely that. It turns stress into a manageable daily task,” she says.
The only advice that the special mother has to give others is, “you add value to get value,” and she lives with this thought every moment. “Together let’s live some happy moments. Aao….Khushi dhund kar layein,” she says in the parting.
(To join this community, please connect @ facebook.com/thespecialmom)